Happy Homeschooler

2003-09-04T06:32:00.000-07:00

Yup, It's True

I packed up in the middle of the night and moved here. Please update your bookmarks. :)

::::::::looks around the place with bittersweet feelings::::::::::::

2003-09-03T20:17:00.000-07:00

Blog Questions

I'm thinking of moving. :)

I'm looking for a blog host with plenty of user friendly features and templates. If the blogs include comments and site meters, that would be great. I'd also like more font and formatting options.

Since my comments aren't working, you can email me.

2003-09-03T19:36:00.000-07:00

Cameron

Say a prayer for my son, Cameron, tonight. At Little League practice for his brother, he stepped on a mound of ants. In a split second, his body was covered, horror movie style. His light blue shirt looked black. :( I took off his clothes there at the school and managed to eventually get the ants off his body. We went to Walgreens, got some benedryl and spray. Areas on his hands, neck, leg and arms are covered with angry looking white bites.

2003-09-03T19:06:00.000-07:00

Freebies!

Speaking of phonics and reading.........

Here is a site that offers free writing journals. A box was delivered today.

I have a Level I Reading and Writing Journal. It has a mix of phonics, sight/shape words, contractions and punctuation exercises. It's colorful and not full of tedius repitition.

I have a Level II Reading and Writing Journal. It has much more creative writing space. It introduces naming, action and describing words.

I have a book of 15 Cut Up, Take Home Books, plus a bonus pack of 5 art books that includes Van Gogh.

My kids adore special books they can carry around and write in.

Now that I've seen the free stuff, I want to check out the site some more.

2003-09-03T18:13:00.000-07:00

Friends are Those Who Laugh at My Jokes

Laura gave me a compliment today. She laughed at my response to Dennis, below.

In helpfulness to my desire to learn more about Roman educator, Quintilian, she sent this. I don't think I would have liked him.

2003-09-03T18:04:00.000-07:00

Phonics and Compulsion

Hello, Brian! You asked:

"So anyway, my question to Joanne is: were you objecting to the compulsion? – in which case I'm with you. Or to the phonics? – in which case I think you are turning your back on some very good stuff, the best stuff on the teaching of literacy that I personally know about." Regarding my response to this article.

To answer your question, I am objecting to the assumption that more and earlier instruction by non parents is the answer to literacy concerns. The longer I homeschool, the more frustrated I get at the government school's answer to everything. Essentially, each answer includes more of the system that created the problem.

In reading the article again, I wanted to make a couple of comments. One is that I agree with the author's bias towards true phonics rather than the sight word and phonics learned through deconstruction.

I don't, however, agree that reading level at 7 is an accurate barometer of reading or life success at 10, 12 or 40.

I believe that teaching reading and potty training have much in common. A parent can spend weeks, months or years teaching the skills needed for each. They can cajole, encourage, reward, punish or coerce. Or, they can *wait* those times and read great books to the child in the meantime. A ready child will learn either skill (reading, using the potty) in a matter of days. At 10, the early potty users or early readers are no different than those who reached mastery at later ages.

2003-09-03T15:44:00.000-07:00

Later, k?

Brian? I will answer your questions later. I got caught up responding to something else. I've got to take my isolated, disadvantaged kids out now. Thanks, Izzy, for the heads up on Brian's queries.

2003-09-03T15:42:00.000-07:00

Thanks, Ladies

I wanted to say that Izzy and Steph (one sixteenth) posted the article I sarcastically opine against below. I would have told you that below, but it would have taken away from the scathing, angry tone I worked hard to cultivate.

2003-09-03T15:39:00.000-07:00

Excuse Me, Dennis?...........

If you have a moment in between spouting NEA rhetoric and indoctrinating children, can you read this?

You said: "Home schooling is an extension of the misguided notion that "anyone can teach."
No, homeschooling is the result of many things.

1) A desire to have a lifestyle that celebrates and honors family
2) A conclusion that the scope and sequence of a institutional learning environment isn't determined adequate or desirable
3) A need to embrace one's faith and spirituality in a way precluded by public school
4) A concern created by the risks in public education setting (bullying, drugs, alcohol, peer dependency......)

Homeschooling is a response (often a proactive rather than a reactive one) to the misguided notion that institutional learning is the best place for kids.

You said:That notion is simply wrong. Recently, some of our best and brightest college graduates, responding to the altruistic call to "Teach for America," failed as teachers because they lacked training. Good teaching is a complex act that involves more than simply loving children."

I agree. I completely agree. However, I fail to see what that has to do with homeschooling. Being an effective teacher in a school setting *requires* many positive attributes and characteristics. Homeschooling, however, is a completely different approach to learning. Homeschoolers don't have to be great teachers. They have to be great homeschoolers.

You said: Research on student achievement overwhelmingly supports the "common-sense" logic that the most important factor affecting student learning is teacher competency. While some parents may be competent to teach very young children, that competence will wane in more advanced grades as the content and complexity increases.

Research! Yes, let's talk research! Have you seen or read the research that documents the academic superiority of homeschooled students?

You said: But schools serve important functions far beyond academic learning. Attending school is an important element in the development of the "whole child." Schools, particularly public schools, are the one place where "all of the children of all of the people come together." Can there be anything more important to each child and thus to our democratic society than to develop virtues and values such as respect for others, the ability to communicate and collaborate and an openness to diversity and new ideas? Such virtues and values cannot be accessed on the Internet.

Ah, yes, the "socialization" question, presented with a bit more sophistication. :) Schools are not proven to be the best socialization vehicle for children. They are the most common, however.

You assume that homeschooled children are sheltered from (the god of) diversity. You also assume that homeschoolers sit glued to the 'net?

Any google search on the topic will show the wide amount of options available for homeschoolers in terms of activities and curriculum.

You said: The isolation implicit in home teaching is anathema to socialization and citizenship. It is a rejection of community and makes the home-schooler the captive of the orthodoxies of the parents.

I'm a bit at a loss as to how to respond to this, Dennis. Even a cursory survey of homeschool curriculum options will show a focus on community, patriotism and citizenship.

I've yet to meet or hear about a truly isolated home learning family. Your assumption of isolation seems to assume that home teaching takes as many hours as public teaching. Happily, that is not the case. It takes homeschoolers less time in formal academics to achieve the superior test scores I mentioned earlier.

I'll have to cut this response short, soon, as my son needs to go to Little League practice. It should be fun, although we are tired from our homeschool park day earlier today. Oh, and I need to stop by the store and get snacks. I'm responsible for snacks at Cub Scouts on Monday. I also have to get a pair of sneakers for my daughter to wear during the performing arts class for homeschoolers next week.........

Sorry for the digression! ;)

You said: One of the strengths of our educational system is the wide range of legitimate forms of public, private or parochial schooling available for parental choice.

Yes, parental choice should continued to be honored. Happily I live in a country that honors the fact that homeschooling is a legitamite educational choice.

You said: With that in mind, those contemplating home teaching might heed the words of the Roman educator, Quintilian (A.D. 95). In opposing home schooling, he wrote, "It is one thing to shun schools entirely, another to choose from them."

I'm not familiar with that educator. When we get to studying that time period, I will make sure my children and I learn more.

2003-09-02T03:40:00.000-07:00

Performing Arts

Well......

I had been in prayer about Larsen's extracurricular activities. Specifically about whether to move her Girl Scout troop membership to the homeschooled (only) group. Right now, having Andrew in a mixed group in Boy Scouts doesn't bother me. The Girl Scouts, however, appear more trendy and come up against some of the values and traditions I want my dd to have. So, I thought the homeschooled group might be a better match. When Larsen's "mixed" Troop leader resigned, I thought that was my answer. Until, that is, I discovered that the homeschool group didn't have room for her. :/

In the meantime, I had heard of an opportunity for homeschoolers on my side of town (which is significant where I live). It includes 50 homeschooled kids 6-14. Every Tuesday, they learn dance and performing arts. Every week they also learn art or voice, which alternates. This year's production is Annie. :)

There is some cost involved. A big (to us, right now) monthly fee and a production fee. However, it does meet on a day that we weren't doing formal academics. In that respect, it would add to my children's learning and not require an(other) adjustment to the schedule.

So.......I'm going to enroll them. (the older two) It's particularly a match for my dd but I believe my son will also benefit from it. They start today. I'm hoping Cameron will be more happy to have "Mom" by himself than upset that he isn't able to participate.

2003-09-01T06:24:00.000-07:00

Another Interesting New Blog

The Rough Woodsman will be a blog to watch. Perhaps it should be WoodsMEN? It's authored by several interesting men.

2003-09-01T06:04:00.000-07:00

Games People Play

New to homeschooling and blogging, Amy posts a great article about another homeschooling family and the "geocaching" game they participate in.

I'll be reading Amy to hear about her developing homeschooling lifestyle. And to get some fitness inspiration. ;)

2003-08-30T08:02:00.000-07:00

A Suprising Resource

I read an article I disliked (yea, I know, imagine *that*). I wrote a response. Click here.

I'm posting about it on this blog because I've been nosing around the site and I was completely surprised that I liked it. I'll admit that because of the article, I expected an institutional bias and agenda. I was pleasantly surprised.

2003-08-29T16:05:00.000-07:00

Capitalism in Action

The ads on the top of my blogspot banner have changed since I posted the political text and links. I used to see only homeschooling links. Now, I see Liberal, Progressive News and Calling All Republicans.

I *could* have fun with Liberal, Progessive News.......but I won't. ;)

2003-08-28T21:29:00.000-07:00

Blog Roll

I made some changes to the Blog Roll. I included the blogs I read daily, but hadn't yet included.

One Sixteenth is a great blog by a "fellow" Texan. Our spiritual lives are a bit divergent, but we have much in common parenting and lifestyle wise.

Paper Bent This is a deeply introspective writer, Christian, homeschooling mom whose raw sincerity inspires me.

Joanne Jacobs intimidates me. ;) Truly, her blog is of a level that is beyond me most days. I could have kept up with her in college, but my hard drive is full of other stuff now. Her blog is insightful and direct.

Adventures of the James Hunt Homeschooling Family This blog is a great, warm homeschooling blog.

Chris O'Donnell Another cerebral blog, not unlike Joanne Jacobs'. Definately worth reading.

Smith Family Great homeschooling family blog.

Classic Adventures Another great family homeschooling blog. I love classical homeschooling, even though I've departed from it.

Glenn Reynolds, InstaPundit I was informed that my grace period has ended. I need to link Glenn immediately. ;) Actually, a long time ago, Glenn actually linked the Happy Homeschooler in a post as an example of "homeschooling from the inside". That one post accounts for probably 1,000 of my hit count.

2003-08-28T20:39:00.000-07:00

While I'm At It

Since I'm on a political theme. I took this test.

My score:

Your political compass
Economic Left/Right: 3.62
Libertarian/Authoritarian: -0.41

I suspect I would have been more conservative, but my views on punishment and children prevented me from scoring more, um right. ;)

Go and take the test. Do the reading, too. It's a great history and finance lesson. :)

2003-08-28T16:01:00.000-07:00

What Women Does She Represent?

I typically stay away from being directly political on this blog (and even my other one). But, I was catching up on some blogs I read occassionally. Katie Allison Granju is one blog I've read sporadically. We have parenting (but not policy) in common. :)

She links this article. I have so little in common with the women mentioned in it that I don't think we are the same gender.

2003-08-28T13:00:00.000-07:00

Sorry for the Interruption!

Formal academics were interrupted today by learning. ;)

We were taking a break between short lessons (a la Charlotte Mason) when the guy in the brown shorts came to the door. You know the one. ;) He came bearing gifts, too. He presented my kids with a great art set. So, our study on the visual arts began with some hands-on experience. Luckily, I homeschool and I didn't have to tell them "NO! This is the time for social studies."

We had already done math. Andrew did a page of addition with regrouping (accurately and with understanding). Larsen made up number sentences. Cameron matched and learned one to one correspondance. (we didn't *call* it that!).

We had also done more geography. We began to talk about Europe. Larsen drew a picture of a castle. Andrew drew a castle and "guys with red coats and silly furry hats". We talked about the reindeer, one of the few wild animals left on the continent of Europe.

We talked more about Columbus. I read some from the Core Curriculum about him. While the illustrated a narration, I read a story about Columbus from a volume of these.

We did a few pages of phonics with Larsen. Andrew did a reading comprehension exercise which he self corrected and told me he got one wrong.

2003-08-28T06:48:00.000-07:00

The Disturbing Change in the Homeschooling Community

I’m noticing a disturbing trend in the homeschooling community. It’s a manifestation of political correctness.

It’s become increasingly less tolerated to “be” anti-institutional settings. I think the main reasons are two fold. One reason is that as homeschooling diversifies, the homeschooling community includes a greater percentage of people who have been in the system for long periods of time. It also includes people who homeschool for less passionate reasons, or homeschool for a deliberate “season” rather than as a specific statement against institutional settings.

The other main reason is age. The so-called pioneers of the recent homeschooling movement’s children have grown and married. But the first “generation” of homeschooled students that were part of the early growing movement are now reaching the end of elementary years and early High School years. A time where it’s more accepted, “understandable” and even expected that children will move (finally!) on to group school settings.

This group of kids hits these years at the *exact* time the homeschooling community is reflecting a more broad population; a population that is less hostile towards public, private and Christian schools.

Bloggers have recently linked a plethora of articles that talk about homeschoolers demanding access to public school facilities and programs. Cyber-schools masquerading as homeschools are on the rise. Anti-HSLDA articles have increased.

Homeschoolers are quitting for many reasons. Some are indeed valid. But the homeschooling community is increasingly reluctant to challenge those who quit. On a board recently, I read where a mom “put on a flame proof suit” in order to post a very pro-homeschooling post on a homeschooling board.

We need the passion back. I try to make my homeschooling decisions about the merits of homeschooling, rather than the disadvantages of institutional schools. However, within the homeschooling community, I should be able to safely state my strong opinions against institutional schooling. I should be encouraged. I think we (the homeschooling community) are losing members who would actually do better to remain homeschoolers. We are losing them because we are afraid of saying the truth. We are afraid to encourage, extort, support and extol.

Homeschoolers also set themselves up to fail. We complain to people who are anti-homeschooling, lukewarm or not convinced that institutional settings carry grave risks. We give people (sometimes even our spouses who simply want to fix things for us) the power and ability to use our current (and temporary) life circumstances as a way to push us to (finally!) put our kids in real school. With rare exception, the people we talk to are indoctrinated to a great degree. We’ve (almost) all been a part of the system and turned out “okay”. We talk to people who are quick to say “You did a great job! Now let someone else take over.”

We need the passion back. We need to be able to remind ourselves and each other that institutional schools aren’t in the long term best interest of our families. We need to, within the homeschooling community, be able to state what we hold back in the cul-de-sac when discussing educational issues in a mixed setting.

Our children and our homeschooling peers need us. They need us to keep our cup full.

2003-08-28T06:22:00.000-07:00

In Favor of Parenting

Preschool, Daycare and Mother’s Day Out

The longer I am a parent and therefore a homeschooler, the more against pre-school I become. Let me admit up front that I did put Andrew into a few 6 week, part time “classes” given by my city at the time. I put Larsen in once.

Daycare, Preschool or “at least” Mother’s Day Out has become so accepted and normative. It’s no longer presented as “an option” but as an assumption; a need. Participating used to be a negative. It then became benign. Benign quickly progressed into favorable. Today, having been through some institutional early school is seen as necessary. Those who don’t participate are perceived as at a disadvantage.

The prevalence of institutional settings for your youngest has come about for many reasons. Not the least of which is the effects of organized feminism. Relatedly, the development of distant, expert driven parenting has served to make us comfortable with more and more space between us and our children. Profit, as described in my Separation for Sale post is an increasing factor.

I’ve sadly witnessed absurd choices within the homeschooling community on this issue. Parents who send pre-schoolers to “pre-school” so they can “homeschool” the older children.

Sending our least trained, most needy, least mature children to an institution to learn is the most perplexing choice of all. By so doing, we begin the indoctrination early. We immerse our children in immaturity and trust an adult or two to teach them ABC’s, their name and numbers. We spend the next 15 years lamenting how distant they become from us.

The risk of these programs is increased if you have a child that is “more” of anything. More energetic, more serious, more sensitive, more aggressive. If we actively chose to put our “more” child in an institutional environment, we need to accept that the system’s employees will behave as such. The overwhelming majority of these employees (government schools to Church’s Mother’s Day Out program) honestly believe they know more about children and more about what’s best for children than you do. They extended this belief to *your* child. Many will (and have) taken that belief to higher authorities when you refuse to do what they think is best for your “more” child.

Daycare is a necessary evil. In order to assuage our guilt over using it, we have embraced the evil and made it seem attractive. Organized feminism has done much to make daycare (and its cousins) acceptable and available. Our culture has helped by downplaying the risks and the effects. Even among staunch at home moms, the use of institutional settings is expected.

Let’s bring our babies home. Let’s normalize cuddling, walks to the park, cookie baking and 50 readings of “Goodnight Moon”. Let’s return the children to the parents; the real experts.

2003-08-27T21:08:00.000-07:00

Go Read Somewhere Else

I added a short, pithy blurb on the real world and my approach to discipline and children to my other blog.

2003-08-27T10:34:00.000-07:00

Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding!

Cameron's Early Kindergarten Singapore Math arrived during recess. Of course, he was eager to start "real math" and so we sat down at the table and did math. :)

Larsen did 2 pages of Explode the code. Cameron said he wanted to do *that* school. Fortunately, I have some on order. :)

We are studying geography, starting with the basics. Monday we reviewed oceans, continents and directions. Today, we talked specifically about Asia. We learned that it's the biggest continent, with the most people. We learned that China and India were countries on it. Andrew drew a meticulous, wonderful map of Asia, including moutains. Larsen drew a more suggestive Asia. ;) Larsen drew animals found on Asia.

We are starting a simple Nature study, to correspond with reviving our Nature Journals. We read about plants, covering the basics. Andrew verbally listed what he knows about plants - I was impressed with his attention to detail. Things such as "the right amount of water" vs. "water". :) He drew a plant, and labelled it. Larsen (are you noticing a theme here?) drew a more artistic impression of plants. Cameron drew cirlces, dotted the paper with the pencil and declared the dots "seeds".

Then my next door neighbor came by and asked for help hanging his new fireplace door. His job was eliminated Monday. I don't know if he's a praying man, but he could use some. :)

2003-08-27T09:06:00.000-07:00

Blogging During Recess

I realize that I began my HSing career in AZ where the push is to eliminate recess. Call my kids academically disadvantaged, but they are out back playing now. ;)

School so far today has flowed thusly........

I am starting Cameron on letter sounds. Slowly. Like, for 1-2 minutes at a time. :)

I am using the same program (an old, simple, inexpensive Hooked on Phonics) for Larsen. We are starting at the beginning, but at an accelerated pace. I can tell she feels good about the mastery of the first pages we are breezing through. I'm skipping the review "because you already know that!" and she beams! :)

Andrew and I worked on carrying/regrouping/renaming today. We've done so before, but I could tell he only did it because I taught him the mechanics. He got them right before, but lacked understanding. I'm **slowly** working my way through Liping Ma's Early Math book. It's intimidating to me but it's also convicting. So, I'm going back and teaching Andrew *why* as well as how.

The light bulb went off today for regrouping! I could tell he "got" it! It was exciting to see mathematical understanding spread all over his face. And if I may offer a quick hurrah for Singapore Math - I think the emphasis on mental math pays off in the short and long term. My inclination is to skip it; it seems tedious and my indoctrination of 18 years of school is to rush him towards the real "written work". But, I can see how the mental problems, worked sitting next to me on the love seat, greatly benefit his math skills. :)

Cameron worked on and off a Jump Start school disk.

Larsen did addition and subtraction review. She also practiced some handwriting on a simple dry erase board with the "correct" letters and numbers instructions on it.

Andrew did an SRA/Hooked on Phonics reading comprehension exercise. He read more on a Christopher Columbus book and narrated it back to me. Did you know Christopher Columbus had to wait *years* to speak to the Queen? And that boats had ovens? ;)

We read a pile of Curious George books here. Curious George is a favorite here. Have you seen my Monkey Business pages?

Well, recess is almost over.

2003-08-26T06:23:00.000-07:00

Warning: Politically Incorrect and Offensive to Many

Still worth reading:

UPDATE: Snopes
This one has accidentally been attributed to a Representative from Georgia, but is actually the work of a Senator from Mississipi by the name of Lewis Napper.

"We, the sensible people of the United States, in an attempt to help everyone get along, restore some semblance of justice, avoid any more riots, keep our nation safe, promote positive behavior, and secure the blessings of debt free liberty to ourselves and our great-great-great-grandchildren, hereby try one more time to ordain and establish some common sense guidelines for the terminally whiny, guilt-ridden, delusional and other liberal bed-wetters. We hold these truths to be self-evident: that a whole lot of people are confused by the Bill of Rights and are so dim that they require a Bill of No Rights."

ARTICLE I:

You do not have the right to a new car, big screen TV or any other form of wealth. More power to you if you can legally acquire them, but no one is guaranteeing anything.

ARTICLE II:

You do not have the right to never be offended. This country is based on freedom, and that means freedom for everyone -- not just you! You may leave the room, turn the channel, express a different opinion, etc., but the world is full of idiots, and probably always will be ... and like the rest of us you need to simply deal with it.

ARTICLE III:

You do not have the right to be free from harm. If you stick a screwdriver in your eye, learn to be more careful; do not expect the tool manufacturer to make you and all your relatives independently wealthy.

ARTICLE IV:

You do not have the right to free food and housing. Americans are the most charitable people to be found, and will gladly help anyone in need, but we are quickly growing weary of subsidizing generation after generation of professional couch potatoes who achieve nothing more than the creation of another generation of professional couch potatoes.

ARTICLE V:

You do not have the right to free health care. That would be nice, but from the looks of public housing, we're just not interested in public health care.

ARTICLE VI:

You do not have the right to physically harm other people. If you kidnap, rape, intentionally maim, or kill someone, don't be surprised if the rest of us want to see you fry in the electric chair.

ARTICLE VII:

You do not have the right to the possessions of others. If you rob, cheat or coerce away the goods or services of other citizens, don't be surprised if the rest of us get together and lock you away in a place where you still won't have the right to a big screen color TV, pool tables, weight rooms or a life of leisure.

ARTICLE VIII:

You don't have the right to a job. All of us sure want you to have a job, and will gladly help you along in hard times, but we expect you to take advantage of the opportunities of part time jobs, education and vocational training laid before you to make yourself useful.

ARTICLE IX:

You do not have the right to happiness. Being an American means that you have the right to PURSUE happiness -- which by the way, is a lot easier if you are unencumbered by an overabundance of idiotic laws created by those of you who were confused by the Bill of Rights,"

ARTICLE X:

This is an English speaking country. We don't care where you are from. We welcome you here. English is our language and like the one you left behind, we also have a culture. Learn it or go back to the country and the living conditions you were fleeing.

If you agree, share this with a friend. No, you don't have to, and nothing tragic will befall you if you don't. I just think it is about time common sense is allowed to flourish --

2003-08-26T04:21:00.000-07:00

All Dressed Up and No Place To Go

Daryl posts an article about an atheist who uses religious objections to school uniforms.

I want to focus on a different aspect of the article.

The reasoning behind her objections to uniforms are: "they "hinder her children's creativity... and freedom of expression." Uniforms also symbolize militarism, which she opposes, she said."

Uniformed children in public school enjoy creative expression without militarism? :/

Her definitions of terms is as flawed as her definition of religious exemption.

2003-08-25T16:23:00.000-07:00

Our Day

We started by reading The Velveteen Rabbit at breakfast.

Larsen and Andrew both did a few pages of Singapore Math.

Cameron and I did alphabet and number flashcards.

Andrew read part of a book on Christopher Columbus and narrated it to me.

Larsen did a few pages of Explode the Code.

I read about the earth and continents from "What your Kindergartener Needs to Know". I plan on adding more in depth info using the higher grade books.

I read about Christopher Columbus from the Kindergartener book. Andrew and Larsen then illustrated a narration. Larsen drew Columbus asking the King and Queen for money. Her picture was complete with thrones and piles of gold next to the royal couple. :) Andrew drew a picture of a modern (motorized) boat next to a picture of a "Columbus" type boat. He also drew a flat earth and a round earth. On the round earth, he marked Columbus' path. :)

We read some poems and discussed poetry as compared to other forms of writing.

On the way to the bank, each child did math flashcards. Cameron did addition, Larsen subtraction and Andrew multiplication.

After my meeting, we spent the afternoon with a great homeschooling family. We held snakes, touched a tarantula shell. We watched the snakes eat frozen baby rats.

2003-08-25T03:19:00.000-07:00

First Day of School!

Today is our first day of 3rd, 1st and early K. :)

Due to a bad dream, I'm up early - and by myself. I've eaten, and am ready to shower but I don't want to disturb DH who can finally sleep in a bit due to an dentist appt this morning.

Occassionally, I will do the children's chores for them (I call it a grace day). I tell them the "dishwasher fairy" or the "bedmaking fairy" has come to visit. This morning, the "kitchen fairy" came by in the wee hours of the morning.

I need to pick out a great read aloud for me to read during their breakfast. I have a meeting on Mondays, so school is abbreviated (or split, depending on whether we get back to it later). The plan is for read alouds, math, Bible, intro to plants and intro to American History starting with Christopher Columbus.

2003-08-23T06:20:00.000-07:00

This Says It All

I'm re-arranging the house a bit, in preparation for school on Monday. That, and I do my best thinking when I putter, clean, and create my newest, best family environment.

Larsen's bed broke, so I had to move the daybed from the loft/school/playroom into Larsen's room. That left the school room without casual seating. Grandma :) got the kids bean bag chairs, which is perfect for TV, gameboy and solitary reading. But it didn't address the need for comfy school reading, talks, phonics lessons. I'm moving the loveseat upstairs.

What "says it all" is the need for a loveseat in my schoolroom. Homeschooling rocks! :)

2003-08-19T04:44:00.000-07:00

The Schizophrenic Homeschooler

::::not apologizing for my politically incorrect title:::::::

We've had a very difficult adjustment to the move here and also to DH's constant travel. We are all "suffering" a bit. I was feeling overwhelmed by the structure and intensity of our rich Sonlight Curriculum. I thought about abadoning the Instructor's Guide and using the books on my own. I decided, instead to sell and provide a rich, relaxed school for my kids this year.

God was faithful! I was able to find a very inexpensive set of these. And these. And these. I found them all at a local used bookstore. No shipping. ;)

I'm going to use them in conjunction with Hirsh's Core Curriculum Series.

I already have next week laid out. I'm going to start with Cameron's What Your Kindergartener Needs to Know and add detail and interest and active learning for Larsen and Andrew. As I told my mom, "Cameron needs to know there are oceans and continents. Larsen needs to know what the continents and oceans are. Andrew needs to know who and what lives in and on them."

Also on the plans are explorers, especially Columbus. We are going to start to learn about visual arts, complete with a visit to the Fine Art Museum.

I haven't decided on Bible, except of course that will will study it. I'm looking at the Bible Explorer books and also the Bible Study Guide.

Through the rich, delightful reading available in the sets I acquired, I am also able to provide plenty of related read alouds. :) I love these "old" sets. They feel so real, so substantial. The look so charming. They aren't "twaddle" as Charlotte Mason would have called much of what is considered learning resources.

Speaking of Charlotte Mason, I'm also bringing back Nature Journals. Interestingly, it was the kids who asked that we go back to them. Looks like a picnic at the park needs to go on the weekly schedule.

2003-08-19T04:21:00.000-07:00

Blogging Will Be Slow This Week

We are having a great with with my parents. :)

2003-08-13T16:58:00.000-07:00

More from One Sixteenth and Tammy.

1. How many children do you homeschool?
2 in “grades” and one early “K”

2. How many years have you been homeschooling?
Just starting my 4th! Yikes!

3. How many homeschooling blogs do you read each day?
6?

4. How many times do you check your favorite blog? –
2 times a day?

5. What's your favorite subject to teach your kids?
Bible

6. What subject do you neglect?

Science, foreign language

7. Will you take a nap today?

Nope.

8. Will any of your children take a nap today?

Nope.

9. How many Lego sets does your family own?

Sets? I don’t know. A big plastic container full.

10. What are the names of your pets?

Callie and Commander.

11. Age of your first kiss?

Too young.

12. Any grandkids?

No, but I do have grown step sons, so it could happen soon.

13. Are your grandkids homeschooled?

Not applicable.

14. Breast or bottle?

Breastfed. They wean when they are ready or can read, whichever comes first. ;)

15. Do you participate in your homeschooling PE class?

No.

16. Favorite homeschooling magazine?

I used to read Mothering Magazine before I got online. It’s not homeschooling, but is homeschooling supportive. I really liked Gentle Spirit, and especially so when I saw how poorly Cheryl had been treated by the homeschooling community.

17. Stupidest curriculum-buying mistake?

I don’t think any of them were stupid. Well, okay, paying full price for Hooked on Phonics was stupid.

18. Worst curriculum you've tried?

Any curriculum I didn’t customize for my kids.

19. Curriculum publisher that you can't believe is still in business?

Can’t think of an appropriate answer to this question.

20. Do you teach your child to tie their shoes or do you wait until they ask?

Teach them around 5.

21. Set bedtime for your kids or not?

No set bedtime, but I do determine nightly when it’s time.

22. Favorite homeschooling bulletin board?

I’m in transition as far as boards go right now.

23. Wood or mechanical pencils?

Wood.

24. Do you use a red pen or not?

Not.

25. Do your children have a bookcase of their own?

Yes.

26. HSLDA. Good, Bad, Silly, No comment?

A flawed necessity.

27. Last biography you read?

Wired.

28. What the last biography one of your children read?

I don’t know that Andrew has read one.

29. What's being studied in science right now?

Rainbows, water cycle and frogs in the neighborhood.

30. Did you like Miquon?

Never used it.

31. Do you buy school supplies around August or as you need them?

Both.

32. Do you buy from homeschool discounters or not?

Yes.

33. What can you see out of your front window?

The sidewalk, driveway, other homes.

34. What's the temperature in your home right now?

78.

35. What time is it right now?

6:48.

36. Do you buy used books?

Yes.

37. What was the most recent spill you had to clean up?

Water from the dogs getting the children’s cups off the table.

38. How old is your couch?

I finally got rid of the icky oldest couch. My other ones are used and I do not know how old they are. They are about a year old in our family.

39. TV or not?

Yes.

40. Schoolroom or not?

Yes, but school is not limited to that room.

41. Desks for each child or not?

Not.

42. If you had to do it all over again, would you homeschool?

Yes, times 3.

2003-08-13T16:33:00.000-07:00

Poll

Tammy found this poll at One-Sixteenth

1. Why are you homeschooling? How much does it have to do with an inability to get kids ready and off to school in the mornings?
I am homeschooling because God made it abundantly clear it is how I was supposed to educate, socialize and live with my kids. The reasons He wanted me to homeschool pile on top of each other yearly. Not one of them has to do with getting kids ready in the mornings.

2. How long do you plan to homeschool?
Until college.

3. What about college? Are you worried they will have trouble getting in?
Not a bit. I’m not certain all kids should go or are called to college, but mine will be prepared if that’s where they are called to go.

4. If your kids went to school at any point, is your relationship with them different now that you are homeschooling?

Not applicable.

5. What would your ideal school look like, and would you send your kids if it existed?
My loft, den, kitchen and mini-van.

6. What convinced you to homeschool (pushed you over the edge)?
Answers to prayer.

7. How did you overcome your initial fears?
I created a notebook about reasons to *not* use institutional schools, reasons to homeschool and how to homeschool. By the time we got to homeschooling, I had made several counter-cultural choices and had little fear about homeschooling.

8. Do you tend to choose curricula with a particular worldview, or do you tend to use what seems to be the best curriculum and adapt any worldview issues?
I use the best curriculum for our style and adapt for worldview and other issues.

9. Do you belong to a support group? How active are you in it?
Yes. Not very.

10. Do you work better to a schedule, or do you let your days fall as they may? Or do you draw up a schedule for humor value?
I work better with a schedule but end up letting my days fall as they may.

11. Do you start school before 10 am?
Yes. In the earlier years, we were often done by 10 am. Of course, we were getting up at 4:30 am.

12. Do you get out of bed before 10 am?
Um…….yes.

13. What time do your kids get dressed?
Time? It varies. After breakfast, during chores, before school.

14. What is your favorite response to the line: "Oh, I could never homeschool my kids."
“I understand. I said the same thing “X” years ago. It’s a wonderful lifestyle.”

15. What's the response you actually use?
See number 14.

16. How many bookshelves are in your house?
Shelves, or book cases?

17. How much coffee do you drink?
Too much. More than a cup, less than a pot.

18. Share a moment with your kids that let you know you were undoubtedly doing the right thing by homeschooling.
One moment? Every day when we start the day cuddled on the daybed doing our morning devotional.

2003-08-01T04:56:00.000-07:00

The "real world" argument against homeschooling

Daryl links this article. Daryl's commentary focuses on the cold/allergy medicine segment. I wanted to use another part as a springboard.

When speaking about the gay/lesbian school, Gloria Masoner, City Editor says:

"The list could go on and on. The fact is if the trend were to take hold, home schooling would be the norm, because every child would need to be segregated for one reason or another. The New York School System isn’t doing these kids any favors. The fact is once they graduate, they’re going to have to face reality and come to terms with their differences.

And the world out there is cold, hard, cruel place. "

The (valid) issue she offers about the slippery slope of special circumstances warranted segregation aside.......

I've always been skeptical of the "real world" argument against homeschooling. I've addressed the issue tangently here in the "Are Homeschooled Children More Mature".

The other aspect are the assumptions implicit in Masoner's editorial. The first assumption of concern is that homeschooling as the norm is a problem. Which carries the assumption that there is something inherently wrong with homeschooling. We can tell from Masoner's text that at least one of her concerns centered around the world being a cold, hard, cruel place. Certainly hardship, injustice, evil and cruelty function in our world. But to characterize the world as such is a stretch and an insult, IMO, to our Creator's creation.

The issue I really want to focus on, though, is the level of acceptance that bullying, teasing and related behaviors that demonstrate poor character are 1) expected 2) normal and 3) demand early and repeated exposure to by our youngest citizens.

Public schools are in a unique situation. They provide an ever increasing program of diversity training while at the same time tolerating a high level of teasing and bullying. IMO and IME, institutional learning enviornments breed and foster the kind of climate that diversity training rallies to combat. At the same time, talk to almost any educator or parent who has (or has been) a child of the system, and you will hear version after version of "kids will be kids". The transalation is "You can't stop all teasing, you need to accept that it's going to happen." The fact that teasing and bullying happens at schools is given as an argument that our children *should* attend.

So.........to sum up my poorly communicated incredulity: teasing and bullying happens. We have diversity training to protect certain politicalized special interests. But we will honor our children's needs to behave as they do in under-supervised packs. And not only is this a good thing, you need to throw your children into the mix at an early age.

And even though *character* and *principles* (secular, of course) are sometimes lauded as part of PS curriculum, that same system fosters behavior contrary to its teachings.

And my 5 year old is supposed to go and learn to cope and manuever in that world under the agendized, undersupervised eyes of PS employees?

My keeping him with me at home, the post office, the grocery store, at Cub Scouts, baseball games and church is an inferior prepeartion for the cold, hard, cruel world? The diligent, steadfast and prayerfully made coaching on my part over the years puts my child at a disadvantage when he's 18+?

2003-07-31T19:51:00.000-07:00

Izzy

I'm listening.

Adding: How refreshing to hear homeschooling discussed without the predictable, jaded questions. It would bore me to even type them out. ;)

I was particularly interested in the part of the conversation regarding boys. Your comment that especially boys need to play, run and even play with guns rang true for me. Did you see my post on my other blog about weapon play?

In closing, you spoke about the importance of children experiencing manual labor and working with their hands. I completely agree. We are not a TV free family but I certainly think the amount of screen time the average child gets today is a co-factor in many of the pressing problems we have with youth.

Listening to the 3 of you talk it occured to me that it was true womanhood. Work, passion and mothering co-existing. Hearing the baby noises in the background added to the sincerity.

I feel a post brewing about genderlessless and its danger. ;)

2003-07-31T07:16:00.000-07:00

More Designing

Don't tell Mike, as I haven't talked to him yet. But, I'm thinking of asking him for a modest (very modest!) decorating budget each month. The plan when we moved was that Mike was going to paint a room a month. However, his travelling is so much that he's weary and doesn't want to spend his little time home painting. I understand! I'd rather he wrestle with the kids, go to the pool and play catch, too.

But, you know, I can probably paint most of the interior of the house. I especially want to paint the entry, stairs, loft and all the yellowing trim.

2003-07-31T07:12:00.000-07:00

Construction

We have a wonderful, spacious backyard. And a doggie door that was already built into our sunroom. And 2 fifty pound dogs. In the 5 months we've been living here, I've not been able to use the doggie door (not that *I* would use it, but you know what I mean). Our "mom dog", Callie, (Mike suggested the name using "C" "A" and "L" for the kids) is an escape artist. She found an infinite number of ways to escape from the fully fenced yard.

So, the poor pups are tethered outside. We aren't in the position to replace the fence (thousands of bucks!). So, I finally went to Lowe's and while getting a sheet of plywood to go under Andrew's mattress, I also got some plywood for the fence. The lumber guy was very kind, but wasn't thinking in terms of "do-ability". I can not hammer nails through the plywood he suggested. I'll be going back for wood glue and some less dense wood today.

You know, Frank Bielic lives in town. You'd think he would come help. Or, at least send Ty.

2003-07-31T06:44:00.000-07:00

Andrew's Reading Level

The last post made me curious as to what level Andrew is able to read. According to 2 of the tests here, Andrew (who will be starting 3rd grade) is reading on a late 5th grade or 6th grade level.

Go Andrew! :)

2003-07-31T06:29:00.000-07:00

Our Life

*sigh* More false starts with school. I managed to convinced the practical and realistic side of me that I could school through visits from Mother in Law and guest and a visit from Aunt Gail. We sure had a great time, but we sure didn't school!

I planned to start, in full, Monday. But I'll be caring for 2 boys in Andrew's Scout Den whose father is a widower. The good news is that the boys are 8 and 10; perfect playmates for Andrew. They visit other boys in the neighborhood frequently, and so everyone is used to each other. I'm new enough to them, though, that my authority isn't compromised by familiarity. :)

I think I'll let Andrew (who is doing mental multiplication and division and reading on a high level) justbask in the testosterone.

Larsen, however, will need plenty of time and attention. I think a tea party is in order. And, settling down in our sunroom with short, frequent lessons from her Sonlight LA program.

Cameron will try to run with the big dogs, but will tire and retreat for mom time. He can join Larsen and I with stacks of books. :)

The following Monday, I will start our full curriculum. Honest.

2003-07-30T18:56:00.000-07:00

Interesting Article

Don't look for political correctness here.

2003-07-30T18:17:00.000-07:00

Woohoo!

Hey, look! I'm a favorite. And I'm in good company.

Scroll down for Izzy (who first, I think) posted about it. And also Tammy.

2003-07-24T15:59:00.000-07:00

Arg!

Ebay has eliminated it's "Homeschooling" category. You can still sell homeschooling items, of course, but they get dumped into general education.

Write ebay and tell them to bring back the category. We have our own curriculum, suppliers, lingo and community. We need our own category (back).

Oh, and ask them if they are going to pay me for the effect this has on my ongoing auctions?

Update: Here is a direct link to one way to complain.

2003-07-23T21:42:00.000-07:00

We do exist!

Ever wonder what the Happy Homeschooling family looks like?

2003-07-23T13:52:00.000-07:00

The Blair Scare

Although Tammy didn't predict insightful commentary from me (I must admit I agree with her list), I do have a comment on the editorial. In addition to the confusion it creates, that is.

The editorial ends with this quote:

"Shame on all the grownups whose own agendas have forever colored her young world. "

The editorial writer gets an "A" on creating and perpetuating a victim mentality.

A smart, educated, and tough 17 + year old didn't have a signficant say or part in her journey?

2003-07-19T05:02:00.000-07:00

Our Own Take Your Kids To Work Day

My husband travels often. Yesterday, he called on his way home with good news and bad news. He said he needed to work today. (bad news) He also said he'd like to take the kids in with him (good news).

So, I just shipped them all off with food, water, some toys and kisses. It'll be nice for them to have an image of what Dad "does" during the time we are apart from him.

2003-07-18T15:29:00.000-07:00

Who Knew?

Did you know that The Wild Thornberrys are a homeschooling family? I did not, but a homeschool board I visit did. Apparently they are homeschoolers that believe in evolution.

2003-07-16T11:16:00.000-07:00

Oh, Yea, School!

Tammy reminded me about homeschooling. ;) I mean about actually home*schooling*, not just blogging about related aspects.

We did school today; in fact history and science are suspended above us, looming in the "should we do it or put it off until tomorrow zone".

I'm very pleased with Singapore's mental math. At first, I was frustrated with Andrew's seeming inability to do mental math. But, today I noted a clear improvement in speed and understanding. We did a page of mental word problems. He did a related page of his workbook.

For Language Arts, Andrew is reading The Beginner's Bible. It's reading level is very low for his ability, but it's perfect to be learning about language arts. Today, he found a homonym, separated a compound sentence and simplified a sentence.

Larsen did math on a computer disk (I have a stack of "educational discs" that are for use during "breaks" in our school day. She did fractions by making pizzas. :)

She's slowly progressing using SL LA. She's beginning to be able to see a word and say "and" instead of a--n--d, a-n-d, and. :) Her ability to focus on phonics before breaking out in major squirms (minor squirms are encouraged) is still liimited. It still hasn't occured to her to even try to sound out words in the world around her. I'm hoping for sometime in the next few months. She's doing very well the the Explode the Code workbooks.

Cameron did his first "grown up school" (his words) today. I had him sit at the table during LA time and begin an alphabet book. We are starting with short vowel sounds. I also did mental math with him (he doesn't have the small motor skills to write numbers yet). He can count extremely well, and can identify numbers through 12. We practiced counting backwards and also finding the missing numbers in number sequences.

Of course, we began the day with God, using Leading Little Ones to God. Today, LLOTG encouraged us to learn about God through seeing and appreciating His created. We read Mark 1: 35-45. We'll discuss "healing" later today. And we are memorizing Psalm 1 from the Good News translation. (Chosen because of it's simplicity, decent accuracy and the fact that our church gave Andrew one and he can read along or do the reading outloud for us).

So, should I do history and science or wait? Hm.......

2003-07-15T17:52:00.000-07:00

Which is gross: Breastfeeding or Taco Bell?

I'm guessing most of you who read my blog read Tammy's. She links a story about a homeschooling, breastfeeding mom who was asked to feed her infant in the bathroom at Taco Bell. Would you like to eat your Nachos Bell Grande in the bathroom? Here's the article.

Tammy reblogged it from Krista.

And, yes, I wrote Taco Bell before I posted this.

My letter:

I have just finished reading a newstory regarding the breastfeeding mom and customer who was abused and harassed by your manager. I understand the manager has been terminated. I'd like to know Taco Bell's policy on breastfeeding moms in Taco Bell facilities. I'd also like to know your plans for training new and existing managers as to a mother's and baby's rights regarding this issue.

2003-07-15T15:04:00.000-07:00

Love

Here is an article I wrote on love.

2003-07-11T07:44:00.000-07:00

Bean Dip for Homeschoolers

I've been passing around bean dip on the net for a few years. It was originally written for attachment parenting and alternative medical choice. I've revised it for homeschoolers who are facing varying levels of hostility towards their choices.

As an interesting related note, I find it telling that the spell check on my AOL email does not recognize "breastfeeding" or "homeschooling". That fact, in and of itself, is why bean dip is so needed. :)

Bean Dip:

I wanted to offer my "bean dip strategy" for homeschooling.

It's something I've learned in my years of parenting using alternative ideas. The specifics may change, but the principal doesn't. When setting boundaries, people (often moms) typically confuse setting the boundary with trying to convince the other person about how right they are in needing to set the boundary.

In setting boundaries, we don't need to convince the other person we are right and they don't have to agree about the boundary. We just need to be prepared to enforce the boundary, at any cost, using progressively more firm responses (if need be).

Here is an example:

I've found new moms often confuse boundaries and trying to convince someone of the *rightness* of their choices. They will send articles, links, books, cite statistics. All of these things send the message: this is up for debate and discussion, I may be swayed by you.

The best thing is to assert your boundary and *not* try to defend your choice. No books, articles, links, etc. If the person feels strongly enough *they* can initiate getting some information.

First, I learned early on that most of my choices were on a "need to know" basis. Most people don't "need to know."
Question: "What about socialization?" Answer: Got that covered, thanks! Want some bean dip?

Question:"They will need to function in the real world" Answer: "Yes! Thank you! Want some bean dip?"

"What about college?" Answer: "Yes, our children will be going. Thanks! Want some bean
dip?"

Now, with some people you will need to set *firm* boundaries. They will need to be backed up with action (like hanging up, leaving the room or even the event). If it's a pattern of intrusion, for example. Practice kind but firm responses:

"I know you love us and the children. We are so glad. Our education choices have been researched and made. I will not discuss it again"

Don't confuse setting boundaries with trying to convince someone of the rightness of your choices. New HSing moms often struggle with this. The boundary is that no one else has a right to tell you how to parent and create a hostile environment. You set boundaries by doing the above. New HSing parents often invite problems is by citing authors, studies and sites to "defend" themselves. Each time you do so, you create more time for discussion and rebuttal and send the message that your decisions are up for debate. Don't defend your choices beyond generalities, and then only once or twice. "We are quite comfortable with our choices. Want some bean dip?"

Finally, look them in the eye and say simply "I want us to have a good relationship. I want you to *enjoy* the children. I'll parent the child - you enjoy them. Let's not discuss this anymore. If you bring it up, I will leave the room."

One thing I want to add is to *carefully* chose who you vent/rant to about parenting issues. Homeschooling is like breastfeeding in a way. Normal struggles get blamed and dumped on homeschooling (like normal baby/adjustment issues get blamed on breastfeeding). People will attribute parenting issues to the fact of your homeschooling. The more aggressive/hostile ones will deliberately capitalize on the opportunity and will use your parenting challenge as a way to force their anti Homeschool agenda. So, be very selective who you talk to about the specifics on your life.

2003-07-09T13:38:00.000-07:00

An Incredible Journey

I've been posting on boards with this homeschooling mom for a while now. I finally read her story. I wish I had read it sooner.

No one should have to have the depth of life experience she's had. But since she's had it, she handles it with dignity, honesty, and strength.

Grab a cup of whatever you drink and settle in.

2003-07-09T11:11:00.000-07:00

Lovely...........NOT!

This article speaks to many wrongs.

2003-07-02T21:44:00.000-07:00

Enchanted Learning

Enchantedlearning.com has a great little 4th of July booklet to print out. It's perfect for a day unit on the holiday. I've used it for a couple of years now. :)

Booklet.

2003-07-02T19:29:00.000-07:00

A Post I Wrote

Here are some general, new homeschooler tips. :)

1) Whatever curriculum you buy, make it *yours*. Write in it. Add to it. Cross things out. Tailor it to your family's values, your children's strengths and weakneses.

2) The public school approach to grade level and curriculum isn't proven effective. It's just the most commonly used model. :)

3) Homeschooling should be (mostly) a joy. As such, I recoommend books such as For The Children's Sake, Educating the Wholehearted Child and Beyond Survival.

4) Always remember that character, discipline and order should come first. Put down Shakespeare to address brotherly love between siblings. Put aside Child's History of the World to teach honesty.

5) Better yet, remember: Deut. 6:7 "And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. "

6) Your children are young. You don't have to teach them to learn. You need to honor and not destroy their desire to learn.

7) Short, frequent lessons. I used a lot of Charlotte Mason ideas in my homeschool. One of the best of those was using short, frequent lessons. This kept interest high, young bodies moving and developed the habit of attention - without a power struggle.

8) School on the couch, the backyard, the park and at the kitchen table. Talk, discuss and cuddle. Although critical family and friends might say otherwise, you being the child's mother is the biggest advantage you have. Actively love your child as you read quality, engaging literature. Don't reproduce your school experience at home. Let your homeschool experience emerge from the love, rituatls and dynamic in your home.

9) Chose your support and friends carefully. Honor the roles of the people God put in your life; but don't expect any one person to serve in many roles. Chose safe, comfortable, experienced and knowledgable people to discuss homeschooling and child rearing issues with. Be pleasant but vague to the rest.

10) Find ways to honor everyone's temperment. Give the extrovert interaction, provide space to the introvert. This minimizes and often eliminates needless conflict. It fills everyone up to provide the best basis on which to behave.

11) Know that you will change, worry, make curriculum choices that don't work. Also know that your children will thrive, regardless. :)

2003-07-01T20:44:00.000-07:00

New Link

I added a new link. Check it out.

2003-07-01T20:11:00.000-07:00

Are Public Schooled Children More Mature?

This issue came up recently for a mom on a homeschool board I participate on. (On which I participate?).

The mom was talking to a relative about her son’s teetering between “child” and “older child” worlds. Wanting to both play with toys and put the toys away. The relative’s response was that the son “would be more mature if he were in public school”.

I have a related experience to share before I get to my point. A few years ago, on an email list I used to own (it still operates, and is wonderful) a mom remarked she could spot a homeschooling family immediately. Several of the homeschooling moms took immediate offense to the remark.

I’ve been pondering this for a while and my reasons for pondering it have been made more acute since moving and trying to assimilate into a near Houston, TEXAS, neighborhood.

I don’t think homeschoolers *can* have it both ways. Our children can’t be “normal” (defined by like other kids) and yet also be parented differently. We can claim our children are properly socialized, we can’t claim they are equally (as defined by the same in tone and tenor) socialized. We can claim that are children are prepared for the real world, but we can’t claim they are a part of the most common world for children in this culture.

Homeschooled children *are* more sheltered. I wouldn’t use the words “mature” or “immature” to describe the differences. But I won’t deny the differences. Certainly the religious aspect makes for some very different thinking and behavior. And even for those families who homeschool for other reasons, the homeschooled children still are often and profoundly different.

I’ve tried hard, so far, to present this issue without judgment. I *try* to make my homeschooling decision be about reasons to homeschool rather than reasons to not go to public school.

So………the problem I have with the issue at hand isn’t that homeschooled kids are less sophisticated. My problem is with the assumption that public schooled kids set the standard by which we should judge the maturity and sophistication of children.

It’s an arbitrary standard. A common one, to be sure, but arbitrary. There is nothing that proves institutional school to be the best or even a good vehicle to contribute heavily to the maturation of children.

2003-06-30T21:28:00.000-07:00

Temperaments

Some of you know that I teach discipline classes. One thing that's very important is knowing the temperament of the people in your family as it relates to being an introvert or extrovert. (for more info, see my discipline site).

My DH is an extreme extrovert. I am an extreme introvert. I wasn't sure what my youngest was, but fortunately, he provided a huge clue the other day.

My DH travels for work a lot. He hasn't been home enough to start to develop a support network or a variety of friends. I'm pretty much it. And, being his extreme extroverted self, he *talks*, talks long and talks often. I've learned, over the years, to listen. :) (In reverse, he's learned my lack of words are not a commentary against him).

A week or so ago, DH must have been talking for some time. My 4.5 yo looks at me and while my DH is *still* talking, asks: "Why is Daddy still talking to you?" ;) AHA! My youngest is an introvert! :)

2003-06-30T19:03:00.000-07:00

Oh, What a Glorious Morning!

We started school (again) today. For those who don't know me, I am Joanne. I've homeschooled 3 years. I started with Five in a Row for "K" for my oldest. The last 2 years has been an eclectic classical mix.

Today, though, I started Sonlight Core 1 with my 8 yo, 6.5 yo and 4.5 yo. :) We are also doing SL Science, LA and Singapore Math.

I also rolled out a new MOTH inspired schedule today, complete with an updated and expanded chore regimen.

We had a wonderful day! I forgot to do math with my dd (she's behind in reading/LA so I concentrated on that).

My oldest is especially excited that we will be covering Science 4 days a week. Up until now, it was my least consistent subject.

I should have known they would (we did a lot of narration the last 2 years) but my kids really *did* get a lot out of the 2 pages we read and discussed of People of the World.

We are doing the 4 day (except for Bible). Tuesday I have a morning Bible study, so we won't be doing much school tomorrow. I'm looking forward to Wednesday!

Oh, and THANKS MOM and DAD for your generous part in our new approach. :)

2003-06-29T20:40:00.000-07:00

Finalization

As many of you know, I've spent the last week organizing, planning and getting ready for the routine, schedule and curriculum change our home is about to enjoy.

Tonight, Mike looked at the schedule, we discussed the newand improved chore routine. I tucked my dear husband in bed (he has to leave at 4:00 am) and I'm getting the house ready. It's a perfect week to make the change. I was going to start with using Sonlight LA only and add the history and science next week. But, I prayerfully reconsidered. We are starting everything tomorrow.

My sister (::::::::::waving to Aunt Gail::::::::::::::) comes later this week. She'll be helping us with school on Friday. I think maybe a quick "4th of July" lesson is in order.

We gave Mike a grill for Father's Day. We had to leave our grill in AZ when we moved. He'll be breaking in the new one next weekend.

My dear husband took the kids out to a nearby fireworks trailer. In Texas, they have them literally on every corner and sometimes in between. I'm not fond of fireworks (at least do-it-yourself kind). But, the look in the eyes of my husband and children is priceless.

I'm just a pyrotechnic-phobe, I guess.

2003-06-28T10:01:00.000-07:00

Link

I have posted a new article on my other blog. It's related to homeschooling issues.

2003-06-27T20:14:00.000-07:00

HARRY POTTER!

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Just wanted to get the hits to go up. ;)

2003-06-26T08:12:00.000-07:00

But, What About College?

Here's an article to print and hand out to nay-sayers.

Teaser quote:

"The report also noted that the most common reason for homeschooling was the parents’ belief that they could give their children a better education at home, either for religious reasons or because of a poor learning environment at school. "

Another:

"“There’s usually a laundry list of concerns that I’ve seen in the media,” says Stevens, “but in my research, I’ve seen no evidence that homeschooling disadvantages students academically or developmentally.” In his interviews with hundreds of homeschoolers, Stevens—who maintains he is not necessarily a homeschooling advocate—said he’s found they are active in their local communities and more likely to be politically involved and to participate in extracurricular activities such as music and sports. "

2003-06-25T19:17:00.000-07:00

ACK!

Okay, you unschoolers, I don't know how you do it. After a few weeks of no curriculum, we have bad attitudes, poor chore execution, lack of focus, and whining. The kids aren't doing too great, either. ;)

VBS is almost over. We start school on a modified schedule Monday. We'll do Bible, Math, Language Arts. The next week (after dear Aunt Gail leaves), we'll add History and Science.

Yesterday, I did our schedule (I have the Managers of Their Homes book for sale now, btw). Today, I planned and organized our Sonlight and Singapore books.

Tomorrow, I update our homemaking routine. Specifically, I need to organize chores so that the kids are productive and *away* from each other. My oldest is a bit too concerned about what his siblings are doing. And my "baby" is a bit too comfortable in his role. He's capable of much more than he is doing.

2003-06-25T18:34:00.000-07:00

Old Made New

Daryl, of HS and Other Stuff has added me to the wonderful list of links. Thank you for the inclusion and compliment! The least I could do is update my link to your new URL. ;)

2003-06-24T20:09:00.000-07:00

Schedule so far

I like reading about real life homeschooling schedules. I'm using this week to organize and plan ours. Here is what I've come up with so far:

Wednesday, Thursday, Friday
Mom Andrew Larsen Cameron
6:00 exercise
6:30 shower
7:00 breakfast
7:30 Prayer chores chores chores
8:00 Bible w/kids bible bible bible
8:30 Lang. Arts LA LA LA

9:30 Math Math Math Math

10:30 History Hist. Hist. Hist.
11:00 Science Sci. Sci. Sci.
11:30 Read Aloud RA RA RA
12:00 Lunch lunch lunch lunch

1:00 Read aloud RA RA RA
1:30 Speech speech speech computer
2:00 planning free free free
2:30 Clean up c/u c/u c/u
3:00 Bible study quiet quiet quiet
3:30 free or pool

7:00 dinner
7:30 start putting kids to bed

Monday is basically the same, only we leave to go to a meeting at 10:15. The kids will do some independent work there. After coming home and eating lunch, we will do history, science and read aloud.

Tuesday, I have a women’s bible study at church. We will do bible together, and the kids will do some independent work at the childcare. That’s were I may use some of the “5 day” resources from Sonlight (since I am using the 4 day schedule, but have the 5 day books).

I plan on grocery shopping Tuesday after Bible study and also Friday afternoon (at different stores, to take advantage of sales).

Next on the planning agenda this week is a chore system and planning our actual curriculum. :)

2003-06-16T17:29:00.000-07:00

The Socialization Question

Here is a cut and paste of something I wrote in response to the socialization question.

Anyway, articles abound on socialization. :)

Here are some things to think about. Using the school as a socialization vehicle isn't proven to be a good, or best tool for socialization. It's simply the most common.

What are your concerns and needs regarding socialization? What do you think children need to do and learn? How are those things best taught or facilitated? In an institutional setting, or elsewhere?

I'll grant that public schools, and to a lesser extent, private schools offer a particular kind of socialization that can't be replicated in a home setting. Even a home setting that involves many activities. However, I've determined that the socialization in schools doesn't match my goals for my family.

Additionally, I want my children's early years of socialization managed by and filtered through *me*. I make no apologies for that. I trust *me* to know when to step in, when to back off, when to teach, when to let natural consequences teach.

I could go on about how I specifically despise the social setting that develops in schools. I could wax eloquent on peer dependency, age and gender segregation, popularity and other things. I could mention that the "pack" behaviors that develop in response to institutional learning environments are accepted as normal, acceptable and even desirable. But, there are plenty of articles that will go on and on about it. :)

Institutional socialization fails to address the individual. I've come to understand myself as an introvert, in the extreme. The school setting fails me in that respect. Teams, groups, forced and frequent and prolonged interaction drains me and kills my spirit, including my fire for learning. Extroverts also face challenges in school settings. They can't interact at will and prolonged periods of not being able to *fill* themselves leaves them at a less than optimal situation to learn.

"What about socialization" is both *the* question and not really the issue at all. I homeschool *because* of the socialization. My social goals for my children are that they learn to develop deep, lasting friendships, they learn to function in groups to the extent of their personality, that they learn to function in isolation to the extent of their personality, that they learn to enjoy, manage conflict, play, learn and grow. I can (and do) provide all of that through the base of home.

Pub ed propaganda has sold you a bill of goods that socialization is only complete when it's through their system. While I agree that many (most, even) children grow into fine adults having been through the system, I don't agree that it's the system that ensured their competency.

2003-06-11T16:50:00.000-07:00

Where To Find Me

I've been working on this for a group of 12 four year olds. :)

That's what we are doing at our church. That's next week. The week after, I am sending my kids to another VBS and taking that week to recover, plan, clean and organize.

My sister is coming to visit the July 4th weekend. After that, we will start our Sonlight Curriculum. :)

2003-06-02T11:36:00.000-07:00

Help?

If you are familiar with Boy Scouts, Vaccinations, Texas and day camps, can you email me at: gowimome@aol.com?

I'm going to be a bit peeved if exercising our right of medical choice prevents my son from going to day camp with the Boy Scouts.

Edited to add: I've just heard that Texas is particularly difficult on this issue.

2003-05-31T23:41:00.000-07:00

Re-Post

I wrote this tonight when a person asked me why I didn't want to get involved with "the system".

I'm a homeschooler who believes in our fundamental right to homeschool. I'm also a person who believes in minimal government. Both combined make me very leery of government schools. In addition to that, public school administrators and teachers have proven (year after year) that they are officially hostile to homeschooling. The NEA passes content and affirms it each year that is a blatant attack on homeschooling families.

School officials, teachers and related persons have often deliberately or in an ignorant fashion given out the wrong information to new (and sometimes old naive) homeschooling families.

I fear creeping control. I truly believe that if I put myself in a system that aggressively looks for control over my children, I make my homeschool more vulnerable to a system I don't trust.

For the same reasons, *I* would never use a cyber school or a K-12 type school where I am accountable to the government.

Finally, the government has made it clear that they feel they know best what my child should eat, wear, learn and do. I am completely against that thinking. I won't compromise my "stand" against that aspect of our government for a few art classes.

2003-05-30T15:56:00.000-07:00

Ah, Much Better!

Here is a much better article about homeschooling.

Check out the quote from a High School Principal. What a rare and accurate insight from an unlikely source.

2003-05-30T15:51:00.000-07:00

The Worst of Both Worlds

Here, let the government school your kids at home.

2003-05-29T17:49:00.000-07:00

Language Arts

I've started using Sonlight's Language Arts for Larsen and Andrew. For those interested in the curriculum, I'm using LA 1 with regular readers for Larsen and LA 2 with regular readers for Andrew.

It's a great way to ease into our new school routine. I'm getting familiar with a new rhythm and the Instructor's Guide.

Andrew is a bit insulted that his LA is based (right now) on The Beginner's Bible. Since he is fluently reading the Good News Bible, he feels that he has made a step down. I'm trying to convince him that it's not about reading ability. I'm trying to get him to agree that it's about learning about our language.

Speaking of reading, I was delighted to find that the Sonlight's LA 1 included phonics instruction. Reading Reflex was fun at the beginning, but as I read ahead, I saw that I didn't like the way it presented "advanced code". I did order Explode the Code to correspond with our Sonlight Language Arts.

I think Larsen will be making great reading progress in the weeks to come. :)

2003-05-27T16:24:00.000-07:00

Prayer, please

If you are reading this, would you take a moment to pray for my church? The *whole* Presbyterian Church. The issue of ordaining homosexuals is once again up for a vote. After several years of battle, the issue was voted to be tabled. But that vote wasn't honored. Now, the church is voting on the issue again. More info can be found here.

My prayer request would be that the church be unified. I am deeply afraid that this issue will divide the church. It's only been united for about 20 years. It was a North/South division then. This potential split would come down along liberal and conservative lines.

The church my husband and I are going to join is a conservative, confessing church and has declared itself to be against ordination of homosexuals. The church we left in AZ did not make the same decision.

2003-05-27T04:02:00.000-07:00

The Dilemma

I know I've posted about this before, but I wanted to update my readers.

Both of my older children have some speech issues. A couple of years ago, in AZ, I had my oldest evaluated at the local elementary school. He was deemed to have a severe phonological delay with high intelligiblity. They would only consent to provide services if I enrolled him 1/4 time. No way.

At the time, most of the sounds he was most challenged in were the latest to come. So, I decided to wait. I did contact HSLDA whose "take" on it was to avoid the SYSTEM.

Well, Andrew is 8+ now and should have all his sounds. He does, in fact have all *his* sounds. They just don't sound like most other people's. ;) Although I've heard through the HS grapevine that Texas is more forthcoming with services, I decided to help him myself. I'm using the Straight Talk program by Nathann . At first, second and third glance, I was overwhelmed and almost to tears. I started anyway. Yesterday was our first try. I'm helping Andrew and Larsen with the "ch" sound.

Feedback, advice and prayer welcome.

2003-05-15T19:09:00.000-07:00

Least Likely Joy

For those of you who know me in person or for a long time online, you would never guess how I have *enjoyed* the last few days.

I was a Leader for 9 boys at a Girl Scout Day Camp. I had a 17 yo assitant who has been homeschooled his whole life, has long hair, and was a great mix of "hip" and "goofy". The first day, the boys and I spent at odds. They were simultaneously trying to impress the 17 yo while seeing what I would put up with and what I would not put up with. They spent much of the day either avoiding anything remotely "girly" (hard to do at a girl scout camp!) or *deliberately* testing me to find where my lines where. You could *see* the relief when they found out I have firm limits and would positively find a way for them to honor those limits. I made clear my desire to *not* find their moms but that I kept it as an option.

By the end of the first day, we were starting to establish some rapport.

The second day, we began to have playful verbal interactions. They made eye contact, joked and there were no discipline problems.

Today, each and every boy greeted me with joy. We played fun, physical games, we joked, we *enjoyed* each other.

I, gulp, volunteered for the same role next year. ;)

Unlikely, indeed. Blessed, definately!

2003-05-13T13:23:00.000-07:00

The Spin Zone

Watch: Homeschooled kid on O'Reilly

2003-05-13T05:34:00.000-07:00

From The Ridiculous File

Lawsuit to ban Oreos.

2003-05-12T03:52:00.000-07:00

Day Camp

The next three days, we are gonig to be at a Day Camp for Homeschooled Girl Scouts. While I would not limit Larsen to homeschoolers only, there are many benefits to this event being for homeschoolers.

1) They can do it at a park during the school year and avoid summer crowds
2) Homeschoolers typically have lots of kids, so this day camp has programs for siblings.
3) They encourage parental involvement - I will be there with the kids for the 3 days
4) The trendier aspects of Girl Scouts will be minimized
5) We get to meet other homeschooled Girl Scouts and Scouting families

I'll post about how it goes! I'm looking forward to it!

2003-05-10T09:02:00.000-07:00

Oh, yea, academics

Since I'm not an unschooler, I thought I might post about what we are doing in terms of actual academics.

Larsen is progressing well using Reading Reflex. I've read many times that it's a good resource for reluctant readers or readers with special challenges.

I'm still using Math U See for both children - although I am in the process of a review for both of them now.

I have just finished the plan for a 2 month American History Unit. That will take us to around July 14 at which point I will start using our Sonlight, Introduction to World History.

Topics include: Columbus, Colonial Times, Jamestown, Pocahontas, Squanto, Wiliam Penn, Mary Johnson, Daniel Boone, Revolutionary War, Winters in Washington, Betsy Ross, Thomas Jefferson, Lewis and Clark, Frances Scott Key, The Alamo, the Gold Rush, the Pony Express, Slaver, Harriet Tubman, Gettsburg, Abe Lincoln, US Grows, Pioneer Life, John Welsley, Bell and Edison, Jane Admas, Booker T. Washington, Ellis Island, Henry Ford, Wright Brothers, Women's Right to Vote, WWI, Lindbergh, The Great Depression, New Deal, WWII, New Frontiers, JFK, MLK, Viet Nam, Gulf Wars. Pretty ambitious for 2 months, huh?

I'm also going to use Singapore Math either as a supplement or as our base math program. I'll see how the kids do with it.

2003-05-09T11:09:00.000-07:00

Great Article!

This article is about gifted homeschool sisters and a rare, insightful medical doctor. I reblogged from Tammy and Izzy. BTW, if you like my blog, you will like each of theirs as well.

2003-05-09T09:45:00.000-07:00

Time, Energy and Pay off?

I have spent hours researching, looking and emailing about putting together a used (and assumed cheaper) Sonlight Curriculum.

Guess what I've discovered? It barely pays off, if at all. Sonlight offers 10% off if you buy a Core and free shipping. All material is new, and available. Trying to get it all together would include many different shipping costs, used materials, time, energy....

So, when my mom's generous check comes, I'm buying directly from Sonlight.

2003-05-08T14:58:00.000-07:00

Not Always So Happy

Today, I was motivated to share my experience during a very challenging time in my marriage. It's on my heart to post it here, too. I hope it helps someone. Although this blog started as a way for family and friends to keep up with us, it's "morphed" into several things. Mostly, it's about real life as a homeschooler. And, that includes the topic below.

All marriages have challenges. And even periods of wanting to leave, making mental plans to leave, thinking vengeful thoughts to leave, fantasizing about leaving, fantasizing about other men.....

All spouses, if they are honest, go through periods of that to one degree or another.

When I was there, I spent so much time lost in "negative marriage thoughts" that I began to confirm that the marriage was over. I saw signs of its doom everywhere. Negative thoughts fueled more negative thoughts. It was heavy, it was scary, it was awful. It was also *my* fault. I'm not saying DH was perfect or blameless - but the heavy leaving/divorce thoughts were my fault. I can't be responsible for the first thought that comes to my mind; but I HAVE to take responsibility for that I do with those thoughts.

In my case, I watered, fed, fertilized and pampered those thoughts. I let them see the sunlight and they grew. I was doing much to seal the doom but nothing to lift it. It *was* a self fullfilling phrophecy.

Finally, God answered a heartfelt prayer. He asked me what a happy, content wife looked like. And He demanded I act like it. I had to greet DH happily, do kind things for him, be cheerful, playful and affectionate. God was faithful; the feelings of love and commitment and desire returned. But, I couldn't wait for the motiviation, I had to do it anyway. The other way was creating rather than solving problems.

There are many resources to help a Christian or any marriage. I plead with you to utilize many of them if the above describes you at all.

2003-05-07T15:49:00.000-07:00

WHOA!

I admit to being more liberal than many homeschoolers. But THIS creeps me out. Warning: some profanity, very graphic words, unsettling content.

2003-05-07T15:36:00.000-07:00

Well, this looks interesting!

A dear friends sent me this link to a movie about homeschoolers. Watch the trailer.

Here is the full email forward. NOTE: I have not checked any of this out.

Subject: Homeschool Movie/Curriculum
From: TRANSPORT PICTURES

M. F. Edwards
2248 Ensor Hollow Road
Buffalo Valley, TN 38548
(931) 858-2181

I've produced a movie that ratifies the beliefs of homeschoolers and
affirms their faith in what they're doing. And because it's for
homeschoolers, it includes curriculum. I hope to have your help in making
this known to homeschoolers in your area. The following information is a
good primer, but if you'd like to know more, please just let me know.

Christian author Terri Camp said "If I were a 'thumbs up' kind of movie
reviewer, MYSTERIOUS WAYS would definitely get twenty thumbs up at our
house!" And as they put it at
Derri's
Discoveries, "Finally, a movie
about homeschoolers, for homeschoolers, and by homeschoolers." Naturally,
it includes curriculum, so children can enjoy the movie and get school
credit.

The movie is MYSTERIOUS WAYS. It's about the Harper family's decision to
homeschool their children; why they do it, how they do it, and how it all
works out for them. They pay a price for their decision, but it brings
great blessings. It will affirm the faith and beliefs of homeschoolers, all
while entertaining and educating them. I have screened it with children
ages 4 and up to good reception. Read a synopsis, see the trailer, and see
a picture of the cover here.

The theme is that even when things look grim, God is working in his own
mysterious ways to bring about something good for those who trust him.

The curriculum involves a 20-minute Film School video, the Director's
commentary track, and a list of more than 30 questions included in the
package. These range in difficulty so children of all ages, and even the
parents, can benefit. Topics include story elements and structure, the use
of symbolism, and details about independent movie productions. Simple, easy
instructions are here.

The company is TRANSPORT PICTURES. We're a new company dedicated to the
production of entertaining and educational materials that affirm the faith
of Christians. There's so much competition for the minds and souls of our
children, and I want to help parents prepare them for eternal life. You can
learn more about us here.

The next step is the production of a series of 35- to 45-minute videos
aimed at the Veggietales crowd and older. These will not be specifically
about homeschooling (so as to expand the customer base), but will continue
to involve the homeschooling Harper family, (so as to put their adventures
in the homeschooling context). These videos will, of course, continue to
include curricula. Thus, the stories themselves will appeal to all
children, but homeschooling children will reap a bonus in that they'll
continue to receive credit for completing the lessons.

The goal is to develop a base of homeschoolers and expand into the
broader Christian market, first with children's videos, then with
additional direct-to-DVD/video feature-length releases. Ultimately I'll
produce low- to mid-budget crossover theatrical releases with a heavy
emphasis on home DVD/video sales.

The retail price is $19.95, including curriculum. Wholesale pricing is
available on request. Available only on DVD. Not rated by the MPAA --
contains no violence, profanity, nudity, or suggestive themes. Look for our
ads in the May issues of CBA MARKETPLACE MAGAZINE and THE COURT REPORT.

So far, the response has been very good, and with some vendors such as
Christian author Terri Camp it has been wildly enthusiastic. It premiered
April 11 in Cookeville, TN, to a good reception including four half-hour
radio programs and a one-hour documentary on the local public TV station.

Sincerely,
Manny Edwards, President
Transport Pictures
www.homeschoolmovie.com
www.mysteriouswaysthemovie.com

2003-05-06T20:29:00.000-07:00

WOOHOO!

My mom is going to buy our next year's curriculum. In her own words, she can't resist helping the kids with their education. If you have a moment, feel free to Email my Mom

and tell her she rocks! I'm indeed blessed to have such a generous and supportive Mom (and Dad!).

2003-05-06T14:07:00.000-07:00

The Zoo

The zoo was great. Hot and humid, but I live in Houston, so what's the point of mentioning it? ;)

One of the moms who went has a history that parallels mine in several important ways. Years of recovery in AA, starting a family in recovery, not being able to be as active in AA, attachment-minded parenting, aversion to permissive parenting and a deep commitment to homeschooling our kids. We'll be talking a lot, I expect.

God provides. :)

2003-05-06T04:02:00.000-07:00

Sonshine Ministry

Have I posted about our Sonshine Ministry? I wanted a way for the children and I to be of service to the church we join. Here is the selfish part; I don't want to teach SS. I know it's the 11th commandment *grin* but I wanted to find another way to serve, with my kids but not for a group of kids. Not at this season of my life. DH travels 90+% of the time - I didn't want to do more child centered activities on my own.

So, I thought the kids and I would start a SONshine ministry. We are going to provide cards, meals, time, refrigerator art, sitting and cleaning services to families in need. It's something tangible we can do and it's something the kids are well able to participate in. I talked to the Pastor about it, and the mom who organizes meals. I'm calling the board of Deacons later to mention our availability and willingness.

2003-05-06T03:34:00.000-07:00

While I am Waiting

While I am waiting to buy Sonlight Curriculum, I'm going to get Andrew "caught up" with his peers for Scouting. We started a year or so behind his new found buddies. Fortunately, just through living and homeschooling, we have done much of the requirements needed for rank and achievement.

On today's agenda is all about Texas and the Texas flag. Thank you, Enchanted Learning.

2003-05-05T15:33:00.000-07:00

Oh, I could never do that, I enjoy the break

Lately, I've been pondering this all-too-common comment given to homeschoolers by non homeschoolers. There is even a commercial that celebrates a child's return to school. You know, the Staples commercial in which the father is “doing a happy dance” while he shops for school supplies with his forlorn children. The YAY! The kids go back to school soon mentality is quite pervasive, cultural, accepted and expected.

Here are some observations I've had as a homeschooling mom who also provided daycare for working moms. The more you are away from your kids; the easier it is to be away from your kids. But, the real truth lies in the alternative phrasing. The less you are with your kids, the more difficult it is to be with your kids.

Children are, by definition, immature. They are often loud, messy, rambunctious, demanding and needy. All this can wear on an adult. In order to make it work happily for all involved, much time, effort and training (I used to hate that word, when I was an idealist parent in theory).

If a parent has limited time at home with a child, they have less opportunity to train for chores, phone etiquette, peanut butter and jelly sandwich making and how to know it's time to go play out back. Therefore the child's very child-ness is less managed and less tolerable. And the parent's skill is underdeveloped.

If children are rarely home all day, the parent never learns how to deal with a daily string of messy events, noisy events, needy events and food events. After a weekend, the parent is exhausted and ready for a break.

I've found that at home moms and homeschooling families find ways to create joy. They do it out of necessity. They enjoy being with their kids more and need less breaks because being with their kids is more manageable, more comfortable. The family unit has spent more time together. This doesn't create the need for more breaks; it lessens the need for them. They've learned how to successfully be parents and adults sharing space.

So, as introverted as I am, I don't have a need for regular, lengthy breaks from my children. Instead, I've chosen to respond to our family's need for discipline, structure, fun, joy, closeness, autonomy and a workable cleaning schedule.

2003-05-05T07:08:00.000-07:00

Request for Speech Therapy Experience

Well, it's time for me to do something more active for Andrew in terms of speech. A few years ago, I had him evaluated at the local (AZ) school. In order to provide services, they required 1/4 time enrollment into the school. That was NOT going to happen. I didn't want to enroll him. Also, on the advice of HSLDA, I didn't want to utilize the services of the system I was making a statement against. (not their exact wording, btw).

Andrew's speech issue was catagorized as "severe" but he has a high intelligability level.

Lately, though, I've noticed an issue with his peers. So......I'm buying the Straight Talk book. Is anyone familiar with it? Any advice and experience is welcome; here or in email.

2003-05-05T07:01:00.000-07:00

Friends

I've been getting a lot of email from readers. Some are old friends, some are current friends, some are potential friends. Some, I don't even know. They've all said they are glad to see me around and blogging. :) I'm not going to mention any of you by name. I figure you would have commented if you wanted your presence known here. But, I did want to invite anyone reading to email me if they have a comment, article to read, a website to share, a sale. I'd be happy to consider posting related information.

This blog started out as a place for family and close friends of our family to keep up with us, especially the kids. Obviously, it's changing a bit.

There is an email link top right. :)

2003-05-05T03:39:00.000-07:00

It's A Zoo

Late last night, I got a call from a mom inviting me to the zoo.

There is some interesting, Godly, history to the call. ;) For those reading who don't know, I am in recovery from alcoholism. I'll celebrate 12 years sober this month. When we moved to Houston, I began my search for the right AA meetings, homeschool groups, etc. Having lived in Houston before, I expected to attend the group I used to go to. However, I attended that group as a married, no kids. Life has changed! :) And that group is no longer a match for me. Of course, God put someone *at* that group to tell me about a Monday meeting with childcare. And, of course, at *that* meeting, God already had 2 homeschooling moms. :)

God is quite efficient with His resources. I never expected or even hoped to find someone who had those two areas in common with me. And yet I'm spending this afternoon in the company of a mom who does. :)

2003-05-04T05:22:00.000-07:00

Overheard at a child's birthday party this weekend:

At a neighbor's birthday party this weekend with my kids, I overheard 2 adults discussing a family with a 7 year old male. "Is she still homechooling?" "Yes, that's why he's so wild. He's with her 24/7".

Now, I am not going to assert that homeschooling children are perfect. ;) What bothers me about this conversation is that its an example of a type of thinking I've identified since having children. Adults tend to "blame" an alternative choice for everything. I noticed it first as a new breastfeeding mom. It didn't happen to me, but I heard story after story in La Leche League. A new mom would have a fussy baby "It's your milk", "you must not have enough milk". Or a mother of an older breastfeeding baby - and the baby is clingy "It's because of breastfeeding". Now, in the absence of breastfeeding, people would attribute fussiness and clinginess to the fact that its a baby. But, with breastfeeding being involved, adults use that as the focus.

I've seen the same dynamic with homeschooling. Ironically, in yesterday's case, the character trait identified (wildness in a boy) is not usually associated with homeschooling. But, since homeschooling is happening; it *must* be responsible for the child's personality challelnges, right?

It's flawed logic; just like the article posted below. A child is wild due to a combination of personality and parenting. "Homeschooling" doesn't create wildness (or shyness, or clinginess, or ........)

Now the truth............I get complimented almost daily on my children's behavior. And I do attribute it, in part, due to them being homeschooled. It's a combination of my parenting *and* the fact that they aren't around public school kids all day learning to accept the unacceptable as "normal".

/hypocritical post

2003-05-02T16:33:00.000-07:00

Finally........

I'm adding some links.

Cool. They even work. ;)

2003-05-02T11:18:00.000-07:00

I'm Blessed. Our Whole Family is Blessed

Last year, my parents were able to accompany me to the Arizona Families for Home Education Homeschool Conference. Michael Medved was the featured speaker. He was excellent. It also gave my homeschooling choice some credibility in the eyes of my parents. They knew of the speaker. On top of that, hundreds of homeschoolers milling around....and a hall filled with curriculum choices. My mom was incredible! I'd pick up a book and she'd say "you want that? I'll buy it!" And, she did. She was less forthcoming the second day with her card! ;) Understandably so. It was a blessing to have help with curriculum but even more of a blessing to spend the 2 days with them.

The conference took place a day after the ruling that "Under God" and the Pledge of Allegiance needed to be dropped. The opening moments of the conference included reciting the Pledge. The THUNDEROUS chorus of "UNDER GOD" still sends chills up my spine.

This year, I'm in a different state. It turns out that my Mother in Law (who I adore and love and respect) will be visiting during the conference in Southeast Texas. She's coming with a friend and my DH will be taking that week off. So.....I can go to the conference for at least one day, possibly 2 and not have to pay a sitter. :)

2003-05-02T10:58:00.000-07:00

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2003-05-02T10:47:00.000-07:00

Not So Happy Homeschooler

This article represents such flawed thinking. Public School never misses abuse, neglect or endangerment, eh?

2003-05-01T06:42:00.000-07:00

{Slaps Forehead}

I had a "duh" moment last night. I realized that while I save money for a Sonlight Core Curriculum and related material, I could pull together a short(ish) unit on American History. Then would enable me to sell my classical materials on the ancients. It would ease my mind about my kids learning some American History *before* they are ready to handle the Sonlight Core on the topic. And, it opens up my Sonlight Core options. I could use Core 1, 2, Alt 2.

And resources for American History abound, cheaply. :)

Suggetions encouraged!

2003-04-29T18:18:00.000-07:00

The Latest Plan

I'm going to finish up using some of the curriculum I have here. Namely, Story of the World. By then, Andrew will be ready for a new math level. I'm leaning towards the next in the Math U See curriculum. It's what Andrew and Larsen are both using now; on different lessons.

I'm also going to progress through First Language Lessons with both kids.

When SOTW is done and I have enough money, I am going to buy from Sonlight Curriculum. I like Sonlight very much. I have since I began researching homeschooling. I'm not sure whether we will do Core 2 or Core 3. Core 2 will pick up where we left off. But, Core 3 will introduce all the kids to American history and it would offer a change of pace.

2003-04-28T15:08:00.000-07:00

Confessions of a Curriculum and Planning Junkie

I need help. Really, I do. I've curriculum hopped, planner scribbled, scheduled, lurked on the unschooling board to asuage my doubts. I've looked out my door for the classical homeschooling police.

My 3 years of homeschooling have been both wonderful *and* full of frustration, guilt, worry and inconsistency.

I frenetically change my mind, my approach, my goals and my attitude.

In spite of my insanity, my kids are thriving. But, I'm certain relatives and friends are arranging an intervention. They will require I *pick* and *stick with* a method of education and a curriculum that matches. They will make me enter into a 30-day treatment program in my own home. Complete with a focus partner. My treatment plan will include no more method books. They will have to spend a whole day trying to convince me that the key to a great homeschool does not lie in finding the perfect planning system.

They will make me put up stickies on my mirrors, dashboard and kithen cabinets saying "I can stay with a curriculum and people like me".

It won't be pretty. They will delete my massive curriculum bookmarks and cancel my orders for the $15.00 planner kids can use.

My last bender was 2 hours on Sunday at Starbucks. I planned, organized and got ready. Came home and that night decided to change my curriculum entirely.

Hello, I'm Joanne. I'm a - a - (gulp) homeschool curriculum and planning addict.

Joanne, still looking for the right approach

2003-04-25T09:03:00.000-07:00

Homeschooling Advocacy

Here is an article against homeschooling:

Public School Teacher Writes about Homeschooling

Here is my response, which I sent through email:

I just finished reading your article on homeschooling and public schools.

I think your point(s) regarding public school are true, but incomplete. You present the positive points specifically and yet make one vague reference to the "weaknesses" in public schools (or institutional learning in general).

Your article would have more validity if you did one of 2 things:

1) Made the article pro-public school, only.
2) Were more informed regarding the reality of homeschooling families, lifestyles and academic environments.

Homeschoolers are a diverse, educated, passionate, vibrant group. The diversity is growing each year. The amount of resources, academic and extracurricular, available to homeschoolers is very large.

Your perception of the isolated, text book driven homeschool doesn't reflect the reality of how homeschoolers educate.

If you want to be against something, at least be familiar with and accurate about that thing.

Your article neglected to mention, specifically, some of the valid reasons to homeschool:

1) Academics - homeschooled children consistently perform above average on national tests.

2) Academics - homeschooling families by definition provide a teacher/student ratio that is not available in institutional schools.

3) Academics - your article spoke of "learning styles". While teachers are familiar with them, I know that applying that knowledge to a room full of children is challenging. Homeschooling parents are also familiar with learning styles and have the time, flexibility and resources to organize the environment around them.

4) Socialization - the socialization that occurs in public schools has become the norm, but it's not proven to be the best socialization vehicle for children. There are many flaws and areas of concern regarding large groups of children functioning with minimal supervision. Bullying, teasing, drugs, alcohol are some of the more serious risks. However, the risks in using public school as a socialization vehicle are not limited to that list.

5) God - Not incorporating God into a lifestyle for 8 hours a day *is* a lifestyle. Not saying anything says volumes.